As we continue with our series on what Fresh Outlook stands for we are at R and like I did for the F I’m going to look at two different points of view. We are going to start with resentment since it is only natural that when you become disabled you experience some resentment. I know when I started to lose my sight I was sick and I kept asking why me. I heard of other people with the same condition that I have that went back to work and had no lasting effects. With my condition pseudo tumor cebris only 6% of people lose their sight permantly. Six percent really? Talk about resentment, I had an over abundance of it!
But, as I came to realize rather quickly being resentful does not get you anywhere and it actually takes a lot of energy. So why should I resent the person that was able to go back to work while I sat at home not being able to see? Did it help me sitting there feeling sorry for myself? No!! I can resent many things, but in the end I needed to accept the fact that this happened to me and resign myself that this was now my life.
This brings us to the resilient part of this article, and something I believe that we all possess. After I got over resenting that I am now disabled I needed to become resilient and figure out what I was going to do next. I certainly was not going to sit at home doing nothing. I give my mom a lot of credit as well in helping me since I always thought she was an incredibly strong woman I drew on that and helped me be as resilient as quickly as I was. However, I do think we all can be resilient.
Look at the cat that I just took in from my opening; he only knew one home for years and years. Now he has a new home and is fitting in so very well, it amazes me at his resilience. He hasn’t seemed to miss a beat, other than getting lost and scared outside. Now I know I need to teach him where he lives so he can safely go outside. There are some people that can become disabled and not miss a beat and others that need some time, but with some help and patience I think we all have it in us to be resilient.
I have been on both sides of the letter R and at least in my opinion, it takes less effort to be resilient than to be resentful. I would love to hear your thoughts about what you think about resentment and resilience, so post something on Facebook at Fresh Out Look Coach or leave a comment on the blog. Let me know what you think E should be if you have any ideas!
Take care and I’ll talk to you soon,