Is facing the fact that you are disabled scary? Sure it is, but I’m sure you have done things that scare you before. If you stay in the poor me mode it helps no one, especially you. Once you transform even a little you can start to find yourself again and help those around you accept the fact that you are disabled. Because disability does not just happen to one person, it happens to everyone that loves and cares about you. So when they see you improving and transforming it will help them to transform along with you.