3 D’s of Disability: Disappointment Detours and Determination

I recently ordered several things from Amazon, which by the way I think is a person with disabilities best friend when in need of something since, at least in my opinion, it is generally fast and relatively easy to use. However life threw me another one of its detours with everything arriving except my office chair, which was the one thing I am really wanting. Now to me this is a big deal since the chair I currently use is very wobbly and with my bad hips and back is not a very happy place to be. I currently have a permanent dent in my right thigh from the way I sit just to stay in place. I sure hope the dent goes away after I get my new chair. This is what prompted this article.

Picture showing Disappointment,has person  sitting with umbrella with clouds raining down; Detours, has sign with arrows pointing all 4 directions and a man thinking which way to go;  Determination, city and a bundle of cash
Being disabled comes with many detours and disappointments, but as long as you have the determination you can go a long way. Going back to my chair, they have now changed the delivery date 3 times! Now Amazon provides a tracking number so I went and tracked the chair, which I did the other day as well by the way and it is in Georgia! Now I live in Pennsylvania and you can drive from one state to the other in a day. So how is it making any kind of sense that I am hearing that it was shipped 8 days ago and it is still in Georgia? Turns out the shipper says they have not even received it yet, but the company says they shipped it. I am so disappointed, and I could just let it go at that.

When you are disappointed you have 2 choices just be disappointed or try to do something about it. I like being proactive. Now that being said I called Amazon and told them what was going on. Since the chair is being sold by a third party Amazon is contacting them and will give them 2 days to respond and they are also giving me a $25 credit on my account for the next time I buy something that Amazon sells. I am still disappointed that my chair is not here, especially since it was originally suppose to be here 4 days ago, but now I know what is going on and I got a credit.

Even when I get detoured or in this case my chair got detoured, you need to use your determination to find out what is happening. Life will always throw you detours, and that reminds me of 2 quotes:
“If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step, you know it’s not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take. That’s why it’s your path.”
-Joseph Campbell

“Do not go where the path may lead,
go instead where there is no path
and leave a trail.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
What we may see as detours are just life winding its interesting road that makes life so very interesting. True that sometimes we do not enjoy or even like the detours, but we should always at least learn a lesson from unpleasant detours.

When you have the determination to get something done or find out the facts about something you will make your own path after all like Charles R. Swindoll says “Life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you react to it.” There are also times that determination can be seen as advocating for yourself which is a good thing when you are disabled.

Advocacy is a great skill that all people with disabilities need to have. Determination and advocacy go hand in hand because you need to be able to stand up for yourself and speak your needs.

If you would like help learning how to advocate for yourself please contact me for a FREE 30 minute chat just go to my calendar and set up a time that is good for you. I look forward to chatting with you and remember when life tries to throw you a detour enjoy the scenery and be determined not to let it ruin your day!
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